My Story: *TRIGGER WARNING*
*TRIGGER WARNING* If you are a friend, colleague or family member, or sexual assault or rape survivor, please consider whether you're ready to watch this.
On September 22nd 2007 at Johnson and Wales North Miami, I was sexually assaulted in my friend's dorm, then my own room, by my friends at the time Kenneth Fox and Alan Harst. During this, I was experiencing a Fragmentary Blackout, meaning my BAC levels were around .20%-.30%. The night apparently ended when I threw up on Alan, which also might have saved my life, and spared me from further sexual assault and/or rape.
I'm finally sharing my story on the 13th memorial of my assault, not only because it's part of my healing process but because I no longer feel a need to protect my assaulter's names or hide my FULL story anymore.
I believe that telling my story has the potential to help someone else, especially if the following conditions applied to survivors watching:
Friends or family assailants
alcohol or drug involved in sexual assault or rape
victim blaming /shame
survivor is also BIPOC
those who have been re-victimized those who felt failed by the education and legal system
The video that set the record straight about consent: Consent Tea https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8
Title IX: Info on mandatory vs confidentiality reporting for survivors in the education system
https://www.duffylawct.com/title-ix/mandatory-reporters/